Many times I've tried to step into my husband's shoes - he's in a foreign country, with a strange language that only now is he beginning to understand. Things that I take for granted are needlessly difficult for him. Things like shopping for groceries are a challenge as most items are labelled only in Croatian. For a country that relies so heavily on tourism, it's one of those things that they'll have to catch up on.
Being an Afrikanac also means he doesn't have the right to state health insurance and other government services. Instead he is treated like an outsider by the state. I guess we could accept it if it stopped there, but the problem also extends into a our social life. For some reason, Croats are not accommodating when in the company of foreigners. In social situations, usually people will speak to me in the expectation that I will convey the message to my husband. This is true even if the other person speaks English as a second language. This puts me in the position of translator every time we go out.
But, my husband is learning. And aside from the few grievances, we have a good life here in what I do believe is a small paradise on this Earth.